How a Real Warrior Dates a Woman

Intro: Who is the Warrior:

The warrior’s purpose is to fiercely protect what he holds dear. He’s upfront, honest to a fault, authentically open and his emotional expressiveness creates the space for a woman to be her true self. Here are the 7 rules of how a warrior dates a woman:

 

RULE #1: HE GOES FOR WHAT HE WANTS NOT WHAT HE THINKS IS POSSIBLE:

He chooses to pursue the woman he wants, irrespective of the fear he feels. Sometimes the woman he fears is the woman he needs to pursue most.  This is not a woman who is incomplete or superficial, but one who inspires him because of the wholeness of her character. He pursues her because he desires her, not because he needs her.

 

RULE #2: IF IT’S NOT A HELL YES, IT’S A HELL NO:

Even if he’s not looking for the woman of his dreams, he only says yes to a woman who he’ll have an unforgettably epic connection with. If it’s not a hell yes, it’s a hell no.  He says no to sex far more often than he says yes. It’s never about what and who is available to him, but about what he truly desires. He doesn’t compromise and doesn’t date women he doesn’t hold in high regard and respect. He doesn’t rely on dating apps in order to make him feel wanted.  He rather date one woman with whom he can have a passionate connection with rather than settling for mediocre connections with multiple women.  Even if he’s dating a woman casually, he will never keep a woman a dirty little secret. He never ghosts, or disconnect, instead he communicates the truth even if it’s something she doesn’t want to hear.

 

RULE #3: HE KNOWS HE IS PROTECTOR & NOT THE ONE SEEKING PROTECTION:

Here the warrior has an outward focus, his only intention is to make her feel safe and secure. He gives this acceptance expecting nothing in return. Just like it’s on him to open doors for her, it’s on him to express his feelings for her first.  The warrior may feel fearful to express his feelings to a woman he’s courting, but he does it anyway. He knows that sitting on his feelings and leaving it to the woman to tell him she wants him first is not the way of the warrior.

 

RULE #4: HE HAS THE COURAGE TO BE BRUTALLY HONEST:

He’s authentic with his intention and the type of connection he wants. From the get-go, he will bluntly let a woman know if he’s just looking to explore physical intimacy instead of a long-term relationship.   He complements only when he truly means it and if there is truth behind it. He communicates with intention.  He does n’t maneuver or strategize and use pre-rehearsed words to gain the woman’s affection. He understands seduction is only for men who are terrified of showing their true selves. He pours his heart out and is always ready to face his insufficiencies.

 

RULE#5: HE KNOWS VALIDATION IS FOR LITTLE BOYS:

A warrior does not build his life around seeking validation from women. He doesn’t define himself or derives his worth by the woman around their arm. He does not attempt to impress his friends with glamor shots of the woman he’s with and neither does he brag about his sexual encounters. His high self-confidence has absolutely nothing to do with his dating life. It remains the same regardless of if he’s dating the woman of his dreams or whether he’s been celibate for a year. A successful courtship won’t give him an air of confidence, just like losing doesn’t deflate him. He practices the art of passionate ambivalence, he’s fully present and open in every moment with her, and does not cling to the insufficiency of rejection if she does not accept him. He’s high on life with or without.  His focus is not attaining women, instead to connect with a woman in the deepest possible way and learn something about himself.

 

RULE #6: HE DEALS WITH REJECTION AS A GIFT:

He doesn’t need permission to feel deeply for a woman, as he doesn’t fear rejection. He chooses this over being numb and moving from woman to woman. A closed off woman may find him too intense while choosing not to engage him. This may trigger his feelings of inadequacy, yet, he utilizes the opportunity to observe his insufficiencies and not give into them.  He always sees a lesson in rejection and practices non-attachment to the outcome of his endeavor. Although he may rue the loss of the woman, he refuses to feel any animosity towards her and truly wishes the best for her.

 

RULE #7: HE HAS DISCOVERED HOW TO FULFILL HIMSELF SEXUALLY:

He understands that porn, masturbation and sexual conquests are addictions that destroy his sex life. He’s a student of his own sexuality.

He detaches his ego from sex, there is no shame nor is there any pride in sex for him. He’s in service to his partner.  He doesn’t compete for being the best lover she’s ever had. He simply the most mindfully present and vulnerable version of himself.

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